{"id":167,"date":"2013-05-24T13:39:36","date_gmt":"2013-05-24T19:39:36","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/marlatomazin.com\/blog\/?p=167"},"modified":"2013-05-24T13:39:36","modified_gmt":"2013-05-24T19:39:36","slug":"caring-for-yourself-in-the-midst-of-stress","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/marlatomazin.com\/?p=167","title":{"rendered":"Caring for Yourself in the Midst of Stress"},"content":{"rendered":"

Everyone goes through rough spots in life\u2014it\u2019s an unfortunate but unavoidable fact. You might feel worried about an upcoming move, overwhelmed as you try to deal with an illness in your family, or anxious about a looming project at work. Maybe you\u2019re simply worn down by the never-ending stress and relentlessly hectic pace of modern life.<\/p>\n

I can sympathize. I\u2019m going through a rough spot myself. Due to several different factors, I have been extremely busy over the past few months. When I\u2019m under pressure, I become stressed (no surprise there, I imagine!) and feel \u201cwired,\u201d meaning that I go to sleep later at night and wake up early each morning. And, of course, because I\u2019m perpetually tired, I tend to worry more about significant and<\/em> insignificant things. Not a very healthy cycle to be caught in.<\/p>\n

After one particularly crazy day, it occurred to me that I should take my own advice. I always urge my clients to take care of and honor themselves in all situations, but especially<\/em> when life is chaotic. If you don\u2019t focus on your own well-being when times are tough, you won\u2019t have the mental, emotional, or physical energy you need to change external circumstances for the better, either.<\/p>\n

In this blog post, I would like to share a few taking-care-of-myself strategies that have been helpful to me the past few weeks, and that you can put into practice to help you make it through the next rough spot in your life, too.<\/p>\n

Realize that things will get better. <\/strong>When you\u2019re in the midst of a tough time, it\u2019s easy to believe that things will never change. But sooner or later, there\u2019s always a light at the end of the tunnel. No matter how you feel right now, the truth is that you won\u2019t be stressed, anxious, or overwhelmed for the rest of your life. Think back on past obstacles you\u2019ve overcome to give yourself motivation to press on, and ask a trusted friend or family member to help you put your current struggle into perspective. This last strategy is particularly effective because not only will sharing your burden help to lighten it; the other person might be able to help you think of solutions you were unable to see on your own.<\/p>\n

Hydrate. <\/strong>Drinking water might seem a little odd a first glance, but it\u2019s actually one of the best things you can do to keep yourself looking and feeling good when you\u2019re under stress. Staying hydrated helps you stay energized, ensures that your body operates optimally, and can even improve the appearance of your skin (a welcome gift when you\u2019re worried and tired!). \u00a0Personally, I drink a quart of water every morning, and I carry a bottle with me throughout the day.<\/p>\n

Exercise. <\/strong>Working out is often the last thing you want to do when life is tough. (Flopping onto the couch probably sounds a lot more attractive!) But the truth is, even a little bit of physical activity can work wonders in terms of how you feel. Exercise makes you feel more capable mentally and<\/em> physically. It can help you sleep better, reduce feelings of stress, and even relieve symptoms of depression as effectively as medication<\/a>. In other words, a half-hour at the gym or a walk around the block is one of the best decisions you can make. That\u2019s why, no matter how busy or unmotivated I am, I commit to working out at least two days a week.<\/p>\n

Give yourself credit. <\/strong>When you\u2019re upset or worried about one aspect of your life, those feelings can easily spill over into your general attitude and outlook. You start looking at your whole life through a negative lens, and if you\u2019re anything like me, you start to focus on the mistakes you\u2019ve made and the things you could have done better. If that sounds familiar, stop<\/em>! Think of one, or two, or ten or twenty things you\u2019ve done well in the recent past and give yourself credit for accomplishing them. Remember, nobody is even remotely close to perfect. Don\u2019t make a tough situation even worse by remaining your own worst critic.<\/p>\n

Prioritize. <\/strong>Especially when you\u2019re feeling overwhelmed or stressed, it\u2019s tempting to fixate on each shiny ball that rolls past instead of directing your energy and attention to the problem at hand. When your efforts are scattered, though, nothing gets done and you end up feeling even more frazzled than you did at first. Remember, you can focus only on one or two big goals at a time, no matter how adept you are at multitasking. As you work through the next rough spot in your life, sit down and decide what is most important to you. If spending time with your family is at the top of your list, for example, put them first and consciously make sure that other things remain on the back burner.<\/p>\n

Say no. <\/strong>Many of us have trouble saying no for a variety of reasons: We don\u2019t want to let others down, we don\u2019t want to be seen as weak, we\u2019re afraid to refuse, etc. However, until you learn to say no when you need to, you\u2019ll never be in the driver\u2019s seat of your own life, and it will be more difficult to steer yourself out of draining, stressful situations. Realize that you don\u2019t have to do it all\u2014nor should you. You don\u2019t have to make every decision, supervise every person\u2019s schedule, chair every event, host every party, and come to the rescue every time something goes wrong. Again, decide ahead of time<\/em> what\u2019s most important to you and prioritize those things. Then you can feel okay about saying no to some of the rest and focus on working toward your own well-being.<\/p>\n

Take time for yourself. <\/strong>Whether the current demands on your energy and time are coming from your family, your job, your friends, your finances, or something else, it\u2019s important to \u201cget away\u201d every so often\u2014literally or at least metaphorically. To make sure that you don\u2019t become too drained and burned out, do something for yourself. Maybe it\u2019s sitting down to enjoy a cup of coffee in the midst of running errands, locking the bathroom door and taking a bubble bath, reading a motivational book during your lunch break, or going on a walk through the park. When you unwind and take a breather, your perspective will stay clearer and your stress will be more manageable.<\/p>\n

In the end, you can\u2019t avoid going through rough times in life, but you can<\/em> decide how to respond to them. Remember that your own health and sanity are paramount, and most of all, have confidence that the sun will emerge from behind the clouds soon!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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