Have you ever heard someone comment that thoughtfulness seems to be going the way of the dinosaurs? Perhaps you\u2019ve had the same thought yourself from time to time. We\u2019ve all experienced an every-man-for-himself attitude at work, given gifts that weren\u2019t acknowledged, walked down streets that seemed full of bad attitudes\u2026and much more.<\/p>\n
I think that as a society, we might <\/em>be becoming less considerate to others than we were in the past. But let me be clear: The problem isn\u2019t that we don\u2019t care or that we\u2019re trying to be rude. We\u2019re simply busier, more stressed, and more overwhelmed than ever before! As we navigate our hectic everyday lives to the best of our ability, going out of our way to make others feel good simply doesn\u2019t cross our minds. We\u2019re so focused on checking all the boxes on our growing to-do lists that we don\u2019t have extra mental bandwidth to devote to anyone else. Believe me, I get it!<\/p>\n Fortunately, acknowledging others in a positive way doesn\u2019t require very much of your time and energy\u2014which means that being more thoughtful is a New Year\u2019s resolution that will be easy to keep! Taking one or two minutes to engage with someone else won\u2019t set you back very far on your to-do list, but it can completely change the tone of that person\u2019s day (and improve your own mood, too!).<\/p>\n In 2015, I hope you\u2019ll join me in committing regular acts of thoughtfulness. Here are six simple ways to do just that:<\/p>\n Remember birthdays. <\/strong>In the age of smartphones, electronic calendars, and automated alerts, it has never been easier to remember when a friend\u2019s, loved one\u2019s, or colleague\u2019s birthday is coming up. And even though many of us downplay the significance of this occasion, deep down, it feels nice when someone else acknowledges us on our special day.<\/p>\n I have always enjoyed wishing people in my life a happy birthday. To me, birthdays are a very important day of the year, and no matter how many candles are on the cake, I believe they\u2019re occasions to celebrate. Sometimes I call the person. Sometimes I mail a card with a personal note, or do both. These actions take only a few minutes to accomplish, and they make such a wonderful impression. They make me feel great, too!<\/p>\n Ask, \u201cHow are you doing?\u201d\u2026and mean it. <\/strong>We all have challenges. We\u2019re all dealing with various issues in our lives that most other people have no idea exist. That\u2019s why it\u2019s so meaningful to sincerely ask others how they\u2019re doing and what\u2019s happening in their lives.<\/p>\n If someone doesn\u2019t want to share the details of his or her life with you, it\u2019s easy for that person to say, \u201cI\u2019m fine\u201d and leave it at that. But many times, the other person will be grateful for a sympathetic ear and perhaps some advice. Devoting a few minutes of your time solely to someone else can make a huge difference in letting that person know he or she is not alone and that others care.<\/p>\n Pass compliments along. <\/strong>Picture this: You\u2019re talking to a friend, and she mentions how much she loves your mutual hairstylist. The next time you have an appointment, don\u2019t just describe the cut and color you\u2019d like; make a point to let the stylist know how much your friend appreciates her.<\/p>\n When I hear something nice about someone, I love to pass along the compliment. Recently, I worked with a client who has cancer and is going through chemo. She was always cheerful, upbeat, and inspiring to the designer, salesperson, and me. When I called to see how she was feeling before a big family event to which she was wearing one of her new outfits, she was so touched that I had called. She thanked me and mentioned how nice the designer and salesperson had been to her. I couldn\u2019t wait to pass along the compliment. The salesperson and designer were thrilled to hear that our client was doing well and were so grateful that I\u2019d passed along her kind words.<\/p>\n Send handwritten thank-you notes. <\/strong>We\u2019ve all heard this suggestion before\u2014and for good reason. Handwritten notes are so much more meaningful than texts or emails. They\u2019re a tangible reminder to the recipient that you are grateful.<\/p>\n It\u2019s so nice to receive and open a thank-you card. I love knowing that someone else truly appreciated the present, dinner, or weekend visiting our home, for example. Remember, handwritten thank-you notes don\u2019t have to be literary masterpieces. A few sentences that take less than five minutes to write can make someone\u2019s day!<\/p>\n Smile. <\/strong>The next time you\u2019re out in public\u2014taking the bus to work, picking up groceries, or walking your dog in the park, for instance\u2014take notice of other people\u2019s demeanors. How many of them look happy? How many of them smile at you in greeting? Chances are, you\u2019ll find that most people go about their business with single-minded purpose, avoiding eye contact and connection with others. Their faces look closed-off and serious\u2014some of them may even be scowling!<\/p>\n That\u2019s why a simple smile can be so meaningful. Smiles can lift the moods of strangers and friends alike, whether you\u2019re engaged in conversation or not. Try to make it a habit to smile at everyone you encounter: your boss, the cashier at the store, the people you pass on the street. Trust me; you will make a positive impression. You\u2019ll start to feel better too, because genuine smiles open your heart and cause your body to release mood-boosting endorphins!<\/p>\n Acknowledge good news that you hear.<\/strong> When you read about someone you know winning an award, publishing a book or article, or hear news of a birth or a promotion, take the time to send a note of congratulations or mention it the next time you see that person.<\/p>\n Those are just a few examples of the good news that is all around us. Unfortunately, we mostly tend to talk about bad news instead. It is much more gratifying to talk about and share good news than to share unhappy news or gossip. If you\u2019re going to engage with someone, make it a positive interaction.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n Give it a try. Resolve to commit regular acts of thoughtfulness in 2015. You\u2019ll have a positive effect on other people\u2019s lives and on your own outlook. 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